Monday, 30 November 2009

Flashback : From Thessaloniki to Skopje

Based on our calculations, the trip from Athens to Skopje, then in Yugoslavia, would take around 10 to 11 hours. So we decided to stop for a couple of days in Thessaloniki, the second largest city in Greece and home of the frappé coffee. Summer days are warm and dry in the Macedonian region. Lazing around on the beach has never been my cuppa tea. There were plenty of outdoor cafes near the seafront esplanade where the Greek gods and goddesses, all stylishly dressed, enjoyed their evening volta (stroll), smoked and drank like they were doing it for a living. Thessaloniki is not a shopping haven but for people who are keen on museums, there are plenty of them here, mostly archaeological and ethnographic. We spent our time strolling among ruins in that 2400 year old city, taking in as many impressions as we could, penning down our thoughts. Looking around and not feeling all that impressed, I realized I was beginning to have a serious case of ruin-fatigue. It was time to leave Greece.

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The next destination was Skopje, Macedonia. Leaving on the night train was very pleasant. As the full moon revealed a mountainous landscape, the cool night air caressed our faces and the movement of the train chugging along put us to sleep in a matter of minutes.

We were woken up by the commotion of morning commuters boarding the train. These were not the usual morning commuters that you would see in London or even Oslo. Among the office workers were also gypsy families with their pots and pans, farmers complete with their chicken and the odd goat.

Skopje in those days did not have many alternatives for lodging. We opted for the youth hostel. Upon registration, we were given a key to the room upstairs. Six beds to a room but since they were not expecting many visitors that day, they said we would have it all to ourselves. Once the door was opened, lo and behold! six  naked boys were still sleeping in the room. A conglomerate of sunny side ups and full moons! I marched down to the reception desk to a few giggling teen devils who straightaway handed me the key to our actual room, even before I opened my mouth.

From my window, I got a good view of the neighbouring Romany village. They must have been living there for years as quite a few of the caravans looked old and broken. The area was generally unkempt. Children were running around barefoot, bare bodied and enjoying the summer morning. As they caught me looking at them from my window and taking pictures of them, they waved and made funny faces. A universal act of friendship. Mothers and their young, beautiful daughters were tending to lunch out in the communal. Young Romany girls are among the prettiest girls on the face of the earth. With their long, wavy, jet black hair and eyes lined with black kohl, many of them were breathtakingly beautiful. That is, until they opened their mouth and revealed that they were mostly dentally-challenged in those days.

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Skopje is divided into two. On one side of the Vardar River is the city and on the other side is the old town. The choice for me was easy. I crossed over the stone bridge and spent almost every single day in Skopje walking around the old bazaar and its surrounding area. Until the modern shopping centres were built in the 1970s, the bazaar was the main shopping area. Bustling with activities, this was the place that you could find anything that you could ever want. Tiny shop-houses on both sides of the main street, offering everything from herbs and spices to gypsy gold. To me, it could have been Turkish as much as Balkan. It was like walking in a different world altogether. I got the feeling that it was an arena that served the locals first and foremost and tourists only occasionally.

The Daut Pasha Hamam was another spot worth visiting. Although it is no longer an operating hamam since being turned into a National Gallery, walking around in the building was quite an experience. I was more interested in the buiding and its interior than the pieces of art that were hung in it. What life must have been like in 15th century Balkan and how rich the culture was in those days with the prominent cultural influences from different empires, near and far.

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The beautiful Mustafa Pasha mosque from the late 15th century stood majestically on a small hill overlooking the Old Bazaar. Another glimpse of Ottoman Skopje. Our visit in the quiet afternoon was met with suspicious looks by the local elders. As soon as we said our salams, they approached us and started asking questions in the local language. One was rather hostile and showed us the door. Another one insisted on knowing whether we were indeed Muslims. As soon as we pointed at and read the prayers on the surrounding walls, they smiled broadly and left us alone to look around. The interior was modest. Blue calligraphy on washed out white walls and a chandelier in the middle. Out in the garden is a mausoleum where Mustafa Pasha’s daughter was buried. The rose garden, however, had seen better days. 

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As we packed our rucksacks that night, very pleased with how the holiday was going, little did we know that on our way to Beograd the next day, we would be thrown off the train in the middle of nowhere without a single word of explanation and marched straight to the nearest police station …

Wednesday, 25 November 2009

Sogno - Andrea Bocelli

Monday, 23 November 2009

Wallahualam…

I don’t know why my mind is thinking of that one girl tonight. She that I often see on campus.

When I was doing my post grad many years ago, I came across her for the first time. A girl who must have been in her mid 30s, always seen hanging around outside the lecture halls, clasping her files and smiling. Always donning colourful baju kurungs and with at least a kilo of powder on her face. Being rather tan by nature, it made her look ridiculous. Never once did I see her talking to anybody or sitting together with anybody. She was always there, standing in the middle of all the hustle and bustle of university life. There were occasions when she slipped into the lecture hall mid way through a lecture. As usual, she sat there holding her file, smiling.

As I was pretty much a lone ranger myself, her presence sort of intrigued me. I saw her one day as I sat in the cafeteria reading on my own. As if on cue, she came and sat right in front of me. I smiled and she smiled.  I invited her to eat. She smiled. An attempt at small talk, left me doing an uncomfortably long soliloquy. As sudden as she came, she stood up and walked away.

*Miss, that girl is not OK*,  said a Sabahan girl that I recognised from a course I was auditing.

*What do you mean? Do you know her?*

*She has been around for a few years already…in that condition*

Apparently, she was a medic student who did not quite make it in the exams. Her failure after failure depressed her so that she stopped functioning completely. Her family has enrolled her for re-sits but she did not have what it takes to get through any of them. Countless amount of consultation with the doctors, bottles of medications, continuous admission to the psychiatric ward later, she finally insisted that all she wanted was to go to the university. The family talked to the university and she was allowed to be on campus and attend lectures as long as she does not cause any trouble…and so she did, year after year.

Wallahhualam..

Sunday, 22 November 2009

Håvamål 119 - 123

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119.

If you know a friend you can fully trust,
Go often to his house
Grass and brambles grow quickly
Upon the untrodden track.

120.

With a good man it is good to talk,
Make him your friend:
But waste no words on a witless oaf,
Nor sit with a senseless ape.

121.

Cherish those near you, never be
The first to break with a friend:
Care eats him who can no longer
Open his heart to another.

122.

An evil man, if you make him your friend,
Will give you evil for good:
A good man, if you make him your friend
Will praise you in every place.

123.

Affection is mutual when men can open
All their heart to each other:
He whose words are always fair
Is untrue and not to be trusted.

Saturday, 21 November 2009

Cake and quarantine

My two small ones have been down with the dreaded flu. We have our hands full with tending to the kids, our work, house renovation and the usual running of a household. Of all of us, EJ was the only one who got the vaccination last week due to his asthma. He was as pleased as punch after the injection. He insisted that it did not hurt at all and that it tasted apple. How he came to that conclusion, only God knows.

Monday was another doctor day for EJ, a follow-up check up of his lungs. The lungs are fine but we left the doctor’s office with two inhalators with respect to our forthcoming travel. One for preventive measures and the other for serious asthma attack. Since I was off on Monday, Missy said that she should be off from preschool too. It was plain logic. What on earth could a mother possibly think of doing on her day off without her kids? Comprendo?

We dropped by at the police station for an errand and EJ started turning pale and weak there. We left as soon as my errand was done. When we got home, he developed high fever and asked to go to sleep.  We contacted the doctor and Tamiflu was given immediately. For 3 whole days, my active little boy laid lethargic on the sofa. Typical of the middle child, EJ basically persevered through the whole ordeal. There was not much nagging for this and that. I gave him that extra TLC by carrying him from the sofa to the dining table for lunch. As he rested his head on my shoulder, his hands wrapped loosely around my neck, it struck me that even this 7 year old is still a baby, really. Sometimes we forget and we expect them to grow too fast when in actual fact we don’t want them to.

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On the third day, when he was beginning to feel better again, Missy went down with the same flu.

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That was on the 18th, the day the new batch of vaccine arrived here. I was asked to call up (the previous week) as they said they will prioritize us due to our travel. So I did and was told that only children are prioritized. Missy could not be vaccinated because of her fever. Spike could not be vaccinated because he is in the 8th grade. The current batch was only offered to children up to the 7th grade. So I drove down to the town centre, filled in the forms and got in the queue for Tamiflu. I asked for medication for the whole family but only Missy got it. I need to go get a prescription from my family doctor first, the pharmacist told me. I reasoned but to no avail. I left with the medicine for Missy. On the way home, I stopped at the supermarket and loaded my trolley with juice, vitamins and all things rendered good for health.

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That evening, DH came home from his meeting with a cake, a present from him and the kids and a promise for another year long celebration.  Spike led the trembling two small ones and sang me a birthday song. Madam Weeper bit her lips hard. A 40 something woman does not cry so easily, for goodness’ sake!

I’m 41 this year. Oh! allow me a few drops ;)

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Staying up and minding the kinds, I pondered on what is it that I really think about aging.

In my teens, I shudder the thought of turning 20. It seemed like a grand conspiracy to force all youngsters into the adult world overnight. Scary.

In my early 20s, I thought of the year 2000 as a point of time that is so far out there. Yes, it was the year that I would be 32. Totally unthinkable!

Upon entering the new century, motherhood and career caused my 30s to swish through at such a speed that before I knew what hit me, I turned 40 last year. Phew!

Some people say life begins at 40, some say that 40s is the new 30s while the incurable pessimists shout *you’re going downhill from here, babe!*.

Me?

I’m happy. I look forward to the years to come. I will welcome them with open arms and I will embrace them like I would my children. I want to spend hours on the shore with my children and grandchildren, teach them a step or two of zapin beradat and joget melayu, spend endless summer days in the garden, being silly, having many good laughs.

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Talking about good laughs, my kids have a habit of turning into mega chatter-boxes whenever they have a high fever. If on normal days they speak at the speed of bullet train, on days with fever they would be supersonic jet planes. Very often what comes out of their mouth is hilarious.

EJ: *Ma, I dreamt of this group of people in the jungle..*

Me: *A tribe?*

EJ: *What are they called again?*

Me: *Well, you have to tell me a bit more. Maybe I can help you*

EJ: *You know … the tribe that has pink lips, pink teeth and have bread stuffed into their mouth to avoid being sick … you know them, Ma. What are they called?*

Me: *I really don’t know. I have never read about them* (trying to keep a straight face)

EJ: *Oh! and they do slow dance too … like peluk peluk*

He retired to the sofa and went back to sleep. LOL

Missy had her share too by enthusiastically explaining to me the workings of the digestive system. Her digestive system. She was on the verge of losing her breath as she concluded:

*We have tummy aches and need to *entut because of all the angin pus-pus in there*

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Today, EJ is almost 100% better and he has been asking for food almost all the time. Kemaruk! After the whole week in quarantine, he is beginning to miss his friends and looks forward to join them on Monday. Since recuperating, he has taken it to be his duty to tidy things up and even washed the toilet today.

Missy is still with high fever and have two more days to go with the *yukkish* Tamiflu. Taking medicine is a ritual on its own. The line ups of water, spoons, tissue paper, plastic bag (in case of puking), a caramel (for afters) and a lot of talk from a very decisive small girl.

Spike is the one with the jernhelse (tr. iron health). I would like to think that he got it from me. Ha ha!

I truly hope that the kids will be fine again soon.